I am a Really Shy Person and Have Trouble Making Friends

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  • [ – ] amberthest reply I also started making videos partly to work on my shyness. I think its helping, at least online! Previously id even have a hard time commenting on things. May friendship come your way 😊
  • [ – ] ThePrincessNeshh reply Being shy is like my weakness. So I decided to do video and be outspoken on certain topics. But the one thing I'm nervous about is doing facecam and vlogs. Taking one day at a time
  • [ – ] theoldsparrow reply Animals are great for you. Did you know just the act of petting a cat regularly can lower your blood pressure? As far as making friends one of the best ways to make friends is to master the art of small talk and be able to have small talk with complete strangers. The scariest part is initiating a conversation because your worries are higher then than any other time because of their first impression of you. If you memorize a few easy to relate to topics to bring up like weather, music, hobbies, work, in college what their major is, etc. then you're off to a great start.
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply Yes!! It's so therapeutic! I can be in the worst mood ever and my cat sitting on my lap purring always makes me feel so much better. I feel so lucky to have a cat that loves me so much. Cats are pretty great, but you already know that :). I'm terrible at initiating conversations... I always get super nervous are it's very obvious. I should practice small talk. I'm sure that would help a lot. Thanks for pointers. I'm sure they will come in handy when I start a new job and meet many new people.
  • [ – ] Markusooi reply Nice Vlog, I myself have many acquaintances and that is good i guess. I only have three very close friends and I feel blessed. I think it took me awhile to realize the difference between the two. Now I am very careful who I call a friend.
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply It is great to have really close friends. I am lucky to have my twin sister because if I didn't have her I would have no one to call my close friend.
  • [ – ] JustABloke reply Actually I seem to be quite approachable, especially from people I have never met before. Oh, here's that tip for getting @therunningrebel into vlogging. You guys are born to do this.
  • [ – ] RubenLeija reply Super easy to make friends. "Hi my name is Jessica, I like making Vidme videos for fun. What do you do for fun? " and smile :)
  • [ – ] ExcalibursZone reply I'm pretty shy in person unless introduced to people within a group situation or while gaming (ice breaker right there due to interaction of boardgames). Keep up the good work! :)
  • [ – ] HeroicVillain reply On the up side, it's a perfect day to summon Cthulu and doom the age of humanity.
  • [ – ] Cl0mar reply I'm super shy too! It's one of the reasons I started posting videos, helps me break out of my shell a little bit :)
  • [ – ] dalestark05 reply great video i can be a little bit shy person i think us as friends
  • [ – ] therunningrebel reply Decon isn't little! He's fat lol.
  • [ – ] AxxL_Afriku reply i have trouble making friends because i wear a mask
  • [ – ] cosmania reply Cool video
  • [ – ] ASideofFem reply I have a hard time making friends too. The older you get the harder it seems to be. Which can suck sometimes, we can be friends =)
  • [ – ] MrATAndreiThomas reply OK I fairly understand your shy and thats OK, I get a little shy if my channel grows even bigger.
  • [ – ] DrCut reply Jessica being shy is not a weakness it's your nature. We are all different just accept who you are and be yourself. Don't try to be someone else. Also you are beautiful girl completely natural and it's rare today. You can play in Star Wars too. Jedi girl! Be yourself. :)
    • [ – ] JessicaMartwin parent reply I do accept myself I just wish I wasn't so shy... I guess that does contradict it when I say I accept myself. Thank you so much for the kind words. I really appreciate it.
      • [ – ] DrCut parent reply You're welcome, but the question is... why are you feel so shy? You have 23 years and you are beautiful girl. So, tell me what is the reason?
  • [ – ] TheVlog reply hey I just followed u, I had a lot of trounble making friends aswell, one thing I tried in the past is just saying hi to a person everyday until they came to me and started a conversation, and other ways I made friends was to volunteer in my college in student government, but u can try to maby volunteer somewhere if u have the time to or get involved in something if ur able to, hope this helps =)
  • [ – ] WolfandRaptor reply making videos does help a lot. i'm the same way. im good at keeping friends and just having them, but not first meeting and trying to make new friends.
  • [ – ] localghost reply I wouldn't say I'm shy but I get nervous a lot so can relate. P.S. I love the rain.
  • [ – ] Xorxon reply I only skipped through the video so I'm not sure I know what it's about but seriously, who needs other humans anyway. Kind of overrated.
  • [ – ] Theresafire reply Glad to see you are able to open up on Vid.me
  • [ – ] the_arcane reply So I appreciate this VLOG. I'm want to try it but I have to ask myself why I want to do it? And I don't know that answer yet. Catharsis maybe? Who knows...I'm rambling. It seems your using this in a therapeutic manner. Maybe that's what I'm after. I'll shut up now. Also, I like your editing. What kind of software do you use?
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply Movavi.... It is super cheap but I work with what I have. I like rambling :). And a huge motivating factor for my vlogs is to help me become less shy.
  • [ – ] Krops23 reply I know that feeling. I've gotten better with age, and maybe realizing that I'm not an introvert or shy, but just a lot of bad experiences about interacting or sharing my thoughts on things that I've learned I'd rather get along by blending in. Great video.
  • [ – ] scottwebb reply I've always been shy. Though, if I know something like the back of my hand, I can be okay talking about it in front of a group. For example my architectural thesis was a year long project. I knew that thing. So come time to give a presentation, it flowed. I struggle with communicating ideas on the fly or verbally. So it's one of the reasons that I wanted to start my vlog. Video / camera first communication is only going to explode so I want to be comfortable. It's a challenge. And, overall shyness will decrease with time as we put ourselves out there. Cheers!
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply I am good at presenting projects and speeches as well. The problem is definitely keeping up with a conversation. I think it becomes quite obvious that I am nervous when talking to other people. I hope we can overcome the shyness :). Thanks for your kind words
  • [ – ] MADDMASTA reply I'm also pretty shy and can't make conversations very well. I've always known quite a bit of people, but the amount of friends I actually had was always very low. Like what amberthest said, I make videos as a way for me to work on overcoming that.
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply It seems like a lot of people are making videos to help become less shy. I really appreciate you all sharing a little about yourselves. It means a lot when other people are so supportive.
  • [ – ] GodLovesFrogs reply aaaa its raining all the time here too T_T_T which kind of sucks because most of my clothes are lightweight lol
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply There is a ton of flooding here... I hate the rain sometimes. The road I usually take to school was closed due to flooding... And maybe get some not so light weight clothes...? Just a thought :D
  • [ – ] BrassCandy reply Oh and good song for the video btw!
  • [ – ] MisterHan2000 reply Ok, hang on a second...a SEVEN HOUR lecture?! Just what were we learning about?
  • [ – ] BrassCandy reply People more so make friends with me than I do with them, if that makes sense. I haven't really initiated a friendship since I was in middle school. πŸ˜‚
    • [ – ] BrassCandy parent reply And I've been introverted for a while, but I'm content with it. I've never felt the need to go out and make friends, and I don't ever really feel lonely. I'm sure that'll bite back someday but for now I'm fine. xD
  • [ – ] tonycapp23 reply You're definitely not alone. Extremely shy here also. To the point of almost being afraid of people.
    • [ – ] JessicaMartwin parent reply It makes me feel a lot better to see that so many other people are also shy. It must be hard to feel afraid of people.
      • [ – ] tonycapp23 parent reply Sometimes.. It's only been recently (the past couple years) that I've sort of become "afraid" of people.. It's probably just more like anxiety of being around people, then fear. But ya, it's tough.. It's a work in progress though, right? For both of us, the shyness. :)
  • [ – ] galwaybeard reply I always find I gotta put myself out there more, esp when moving to a new place. Clubs and meetup groups can be great. There's other people in your shoes out there who are searching for someone like you. Also animals are awesome :)
  • [ – ] Gazarhya reply I kinda know where you are coming from with the shyness. I used to be terribly shy when I was younger, I still am really. I've been luck in that I have sort of always had one or two close friends throughout my life though, but never really a big group. I studied to be a ham radio operator when I was just 16 and that inherently involved talking to people you didn't know all around the world, that helped me build my skills of striking a conversation from scratch, which was good. The whole vlogging/ content creation thing is quite interesting in that it sub-consciously builds these skills too, I believe. Keep it up and good luck with the move, I'm sure once you actually properly vlog in public, it will just seem natural. πŸ‘
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply Wow, that sounds really cool. That would definitely help with communicating with other people :). And wow, you were young when you learned that. I think it is helping me to keep talking, which I'm not the best at. It is hard for me, at times, to keep words coming and conversations going. Thanks for your support :)
  • [ – ] Lonit reply me_irl
  • [ – ] Godhood reply The good news is that shyness can be overcome. If you search online there are some good techniques to overcome shyness. You will have to put yourself out there when interacting with people/coworkers but the more you do it the more confidence you have. Don't become a future "cat lady" (just kidding). ;)
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply Haha, but I want to be a crazy cat lady.... haha just kidding. And I should definitely look into that. Thanks for the suggestion :)
  • [ – ] Flying_Purple_Pizzas reply Hey, Jessica. I understand about the friend thing. Throughout my life I've usually only had one really close friend at a time. It's like I couldn't handle being that close to more than one at once, like focusing on one would take away from another and I didn't want the competition thing to happen. Not that I didn't know other people, I just spent the majority of my time around one person. My wife is my best friend and she gets nearly all of my attention. Do you feel that way with your boyfriend? Thanks for opening up and sharing with us. I cheer you on, knowing this is difficult for you, wanting you to succeed. Maybe I identify a little with your life circumstances. One more day and you are done with school! At least for now. Good job!
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply I feel like my boyfriend is a best friend but he just doesn't get me like my twin does. Yet. I'm sure over time he will become my best friend of all. I think it's awesome that your wife is your best friend. You talk about her a lot in your comments so it's quite obvious that she is a huge part of your life. I think it's great that you talk so much about her And yeah, done for now.... I'll be back in school in a few short years. I really look forward to it though.
  • [ – ] DanielHuntington reply I just discovered you, and yeah, I hear you. Being shy kinda sucks. For the first two years of high school, I felt kinda lonely just listening to my music at lunch. In the last two years of high school, as well as having a personal Facebook account helped me interact with really, good friends that I still hang out with or talk to today which is pretty lucky of me. But with college, I was overall less successful. I mean, I did meet some cool people, but I guess my shyness kinda kicked in again. Good luck meeting some good friends in the future. Hope you do well. :)
    • JessicaMartwin parent reply Being shy has been really hard for me to deal with. I feel like I've missed out on a lot of great opportunities because of it. High school is terrible for some people and I was one of those people. I'm glad that you were able to make friends :) I graduate tomorrow and still made no friends in college but oh well. Thanks for your kind words. I really appreciate it
  • [ – ] jrswab reply I did not walk at my graduation either since I graduated in December and would have to walk with a different set of people. Also, I tend to be shy as well and that is something I've been trying to work on.
    • [ – ] JessicaMartwin parent reply I have no one here, aside from my boyfriend, to go to the ceremony so I don't see the point. It has been really hard to make and keep friends since I'm so shy. I really want to become more outgoing because being shy is a burden. Hopefully we both can become more outgoing people :)
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