When we acknowledge someone we say in effect that you count. When we ignore someone we discount them – we devalue them.
When you acknowledge your own efforts – you say that counts – and in doing so you build self esteem and self value. When you fail to acknowledge yourself you are discounting – you are saying what you did had little value. And if you apply it not just to the behaviour but to yourself then you are saying that you don’t count – that you have little value.
Hmmm? Interesting. So let’s look at how acknowledgement can be used to facilitate powerful change. In a NLP coaching session I usually start by asking what is the problem, if any and what do you want for yourself from this session? This is the NLP present state to desired outcome model.
The client usually starts by describing a problem with marijuana, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, weight loss, binge eating, gambling, anger management, fear, anxiety, stress, confidence in public speaking, a relationship conflict or how to switch off at the end of the day and relax?
Now I could go into fix-it mode but to do that would not acknowledge them for who they are and for what efforts they may have made to fix the problem and move towards their desired outcome.
So what I do is listen. But when I listen I am not so much interested in the content but in mapping out the structure – the process of how they do the problem...
So the first step towards transformation comes with the acknowledgement that there is a problem. An understanding of personality type tends to bring in acceptance. With acceptance the client stops judging themselves so harshly. They relax a bit – and they find it easier to orient themselves to a possible future self – in which they work, live and play in an environment in which they flourish.
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