Lately, I’ve been making a conscious effort to stand up straight and not to slouch.
And I noticed a weird thing about standing up straight when you’re used to slouching: standing up straight feels as though you’re bending over backwards and you’re about to fall backwards.
In your head and in your muscles, it’s like you’re falling backwards. But in actual fact, you’re only standing straight. And to outside observers, you’re just standing straight. But you feel like you’re falling backwards.
That’s because you’re used to slouching. Slouching is your normal. Slouching was your normal. And so, standing straight feels like bending over backwards. That’s weird, isn’t it?
There are many things in our lives where we have bad habits. And those bad habits, we’ve come to accept as normal. But they’re not! They’re actually bad habits.
And when we try to make a change, when we try to adopt a good habit in replacement of that bad habit, in that area of time between when the old habit is lost and the new habit is adopted as the new normal, that good habit – which in objective measurement is normal – feels abnormal. Because we are used to a subnormal state. Does that make sense? When you’re used to slouching, standing straight feels like bending backwards. When you are used to sub-performance, doing okay feels like doing extra.
But the thing is, that you need to keep doing it until the good habit becomes the new normal. So, you just have to live with the feeling like you’re falling backwards until it becomes the new normal and you just feel like you’re standing up straight.
So, when you want to adopt a new habit in your life – a new way of thinking – you have to live with that feeling like you’re going to fall backwards. But you’re not going to fall. Actually, you’re just standing straight. Live with that feeling like you’re going to fall, until you’re no longer afraid of it. Until it becomes the new normal. And then, it’s just normal.
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